Do you fight about money all the time? Do you resent each other even when you don’t talk about it? Do you feel as if you are no longer a team? Are you unsure what to do about this?
Having a Marriage Plan
Now it’s time to talk about money – an especially touchy subject, right? Yes, but an extremely important one. While most couples report that the number one area they want to improve in their marriage is communication, statistics actually show that money and/or an unfair division of labor are at the root of 70% of all divorces. Sometimes the impact of money is quite obvious:
“We're fighting all the time because she can't stop spending.”
“I only spend money because I have to do everything around here!”
And, sometimes it’s a bit subtler:
“He's stressed and angry all the time because he hates his job, but can't leave it because we need the money.”
“She doesn't want to have sex anymore because she's exhausted from watching the kids all day and taking care of everything around the house, but we can't afford childcare or a housekeeper.”
Often times these more subtle issues are further complicated by underlying resentment. For example: she secretly resents him for not making enough money or helping around the house and he secretly resents her for the constant nagging and reluctance to get a job.
Fighting Over Money Can Weaken Your Marriage
I don't believe money is the root of all evil, but it sure brings a lot of couples into my office! Constant fighting over money can taint even the strongest of marriages and can cause couples to lose sight of what is truly wonderful about their lives and wonderful about each other. So in this article, we're going to begin to cover some basic strategies on how to effectively handle money; we’re going to begin to discuss and create what I like to call a “Marriage Plan.”
Many of you may know that to run a successful business, one needs a “Plan,” a structured outline detailing the company’s intended goals and how it intends to reach those goals. Well, a successful marriage needs a similar kind of plan. This plan includes what I like to call a “Vision,” a “Budget” and “Job Descriptions.” While these terms might sound intimidating to some people, agreeing upon them, and specifically, StrongMarriageNow System. Dr. Dana will walk you through how to get on the same page with your spouse about the future, how to resolve disagreements around money and how to fairly divide responsibilities. There are many exercises and videos to help you finally end the fighting over money.
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Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders, StrongMarriageNow.com