Question: "My wife and I have been fighting a lot lately because she keeps telling me that I take her for granted. While it is true that I am not as romantic as when we were first together, we have been married for 15 years now and I thought we were very comfortable with each other. What should I do?"

– Joe, Saint Paul, Minnesota

Answer: Dear Joe, I cannot tell from your letter whether you are taking your spouse for granted or not. However, I can tell you, if you are taking your spouse for granted because you believe that your partner will always be there for you, you are making a huge mistake.

In every marriage it is critical that both spouses take the time and make the effort to be kind, thoughtful, appreciative, respectful, supportive, and affirming towards their spouse.

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If you are taking your spouse for granted because you believe that your partner will always be there for you, you are making a huge mistake.

So it might be more helpful for me to tell you what it means to not take your spouse for granted. Not taking your spouse for granted means going beyond remembering your anniversary and your spouse's birthday. Not taking your spouse for granted means being tuned in to how your spouse feels and what your spouse thinks. Not taking your spouse for granted means you listen, you don't interrupt, and you show and tell your spouse of your love on a regular basis. This is one of the many ways to fall back in love.

So now, based on that description, I’ll ask you to consider – are you taking your spouse for granted?

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Dr. Dana Fillmore and Amy Barnhart, co-Founders, StrongMarriageNow.com