Dr. Dana's Help to Stop Arguing About Money
Are you struggling to get on the same page about money? Frustrated that your partner wont listen to you? Discover how to improve the communication in your relationship and stop fighting about money by watching the video presentation below.
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Video Transcript - Dr. Dana's Help to Get on the Same Page About Money
Hi, I’m Dr. Dana. Are you struggling with getting on the same page about money in your marriage? While most couples report that the number one area they want to improve in their marriage is communication, statistics actually show that money and/or an unfair division of labor are at the root of 70% of all divorces.
Sometimes the impact of money is quite obvious:
“We're fighting all the time because she can't stop spending.”
“I only spend money because I have to do everything around here!”
And, sometimes it’s a bit subtler:
“He's stressed and angry all the time because he hates his job, but can't leave it because we need the money.”
“She doesn't want to have sex anymore because she's exhausted from watching the kids all day and taking care of everything around the house, but we can't afford childcare or a housekeeper.”
Often times these more subtle issues are further complicated by underlying resentment. For example: she secretly resents him for not making enough money or helping around the house and he secretly resents her for the constant nagging and reluctance to get a job.
Constant fighting over money can taint even the strongest of marriages and can cause couples to lose sight of what is truly wonderful about their lives and wonderful about each other. So, it’s important to have some basic strategies on how to effectively handle money; I like to start with what I call a “Marriage Plan.”
Many of you may know that to run a successful business, one needs a “Plan,” a structured outline detailing the company’s intended goals and how it intends to reach those goals. Well, a successful marriage needs a similar kind of plan. This plan includes a “Vision,” of where you see yourself in one, ten and twenty five years, a “Budget” to help you best meet your goals and allocate your resources and “Job Descriptions” to help fairly divide the responsibilities of your home and family. While these terms might sound intimidating to some people, agreeing upon them, and specifically, agreeing upon a Plan for the Marriage which encompasses all of them, can help a couple strive for the same goals and work together as a team to build the life they most desire. Don’t underestimate the importance of having a plan for your marriage.
To discover how to create a marriage plan for your life together, use the StrongMarriageNow System. I walk you through how to get on the same page with your spouse about the future, how to resolve disagreements around money and how to fairly divide responsibilities. There are many exercises and videos to help you. To learn more about the StrongMarriageNow System, click on the button below. You’ll be amazed at how a marriage plan can help you end the fighting and make your dreams come true.