How do I choose a marriage counselor that’s right for me and my husband?

There are some key questions that will help you determine who is the best therapist for you and your spouse.  

The first thing you need to check out is:  Are they a couples therapy expert? Not just do they have experience doing couples therapy, because almost every therapist will tell you that they do,  but do they consider couples counseling one of the things they specialize in and do they have at least 10 years of experience doing it.

couple in counseling

The next thing you need to consider is, are they compatible with both you and your spouse. For the most part you can determine this over the phone. Keep in mind, a lot of therapists believe that the way to save a marriage is to try to make the man become more like a woman.  But in fact, most men are more comfortable with a therapist that has a direct, respectful, and balanced approach. So if you walk into their office and the couches are pink and flowery, there’s new age music playing and lots of low lighting chances are your husband will quickly check out and it won’t work.  

Next, lets talk about the cost.  Couples Counseling is an investment in your marriage and it takes time and money. But I tell people that couples therapy is like tuning-up your car, you won’t fix it if you only change the spark plugs, there are a lot of other important parts that need time and attention.

Keep in mind, most insurance companies don’t cover couples counseling.  And a single couples therapy session can cost anywhere between $80 to $200 per hour.  So make sure you consider this when you’re choosing your couples therapist.

Related Posts

  • How to Stop a Fight Before It Starts
    How to Stop a Fight Before It Starts

    Are you tired of fighting all the time? Do you feel as if you are constantly stepping on each other’s toes? Does your partner shut down when you try to talk with him/her and you don’t know why? Do you want to know how to stop fighting in your marriage? Avoiding Triggers Reduces Conflict Everybody has…

  • The Secret to Being Happily Married For The Long-Term

    So, you want to now the real difference between the people who stay happily married and the people who don’t? The people who stay happily married are willing to work on it.  They’re willing to learn, to grow, to change, to take risks and to take action.  Basically, they’re willing to do whatever it takes.…

  • How We Help

    Our Most Popular Program Strong Marriage Now System 2.0 An innovative alternative to in person counseling done completely online that will help you get your marriage back on track. Your System Includes: The Checked Out Partner Solution Do you want to: The Connect, Communicate & End the Fighting System Solution Chapter 1 Will Reveal: Chapter…

  • Stop Divorce and Separation

    Are you trying to stop your divorce or separation and save your marriage? Does your spouse want out and you’re not sure what to do? Are you afraid your marriage is over? It is possible to stop the divorce and save your marriage even if your spouse isn’t willing to try but you must handle…

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *