When tension dominates your marriage, no one is happy. Even if the problem (or problems) aren’t at the center of every conversation, there’s still a cloud hanging over the relationship that prevents couples from moving forward into healthier, happier territory. Whether it’s an issue large or small, unresolved disputes are little worms that eat away […]

The problems are in the past, so why does it feel like they’re here in the present? When massive events rattle your marriage – whether it’s an affair, a huge fight, some secret coming to light, or anything else that throws a wrench into the stability of your relationship – one of the hardest parts […]

Concerns about infidelity plague many couples. People might be suspicious of their spouses, worry that trouble in the marriage might tempt their partner into looking elsewhere for affection, or be susceptible to falling into an affair themselves. Because this very painful potential exists, couples often wonder what conditions might make their partner cheat, or want […]

Whether a conflict is minor or earth shattering, forgiveness is an essential part of moving forward. Sometimes, though, we can be too caught up in feeling hurt to think clearly about forgiveness, or simply hold too much anger to want to offer it at all… Let’s take a step back though, and explore what forgiveness […]

In the wake of an affair, you can’t help but feel betrayed. Your trust has been broken. You likely angry, feel lost and hopeless, and are coping with sadness, confusion, and a mix of conflicting emotions. And somewhere underneath all the hurt, there’s a question that you eventually have to ask yourself: Can you ever […]

When problems have caused a rift in your marriage, when disconnection or disagreements have gotten out of control, and you’ve done or said something truly hurtful… It can be extremely difficult to find forgiveness and move forward. One of the largest barriers to forgiveness, though, is forming and offering an effective apology. Even when people […]

In the midst of conflict, plenty of us have heard the phrase “forgive and forget” – but is forgetting really a good idea? Does it help us forgive? Does forgetting help our marriages in the long run? As a matter of fact, it doesn’t. Forgiveness takes many things – patience, apologies, communication about the source […]

“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You […]